To me it is still a question whether all the problems are due to delayed education and communication in home or from minor brain damage. If it is more due to delayed education in her early time, all the phenomena expressed by her now should be dealed as normal personalities. Then your education method should not be the same as those for elimautis. To me the so-called "bad behavior" recently on her in the mornings and nights could be completly normal since it could also happen on a completly normal baby. If it is impossible to give her a right diagnose now by expert, you at least may not neccessarily push her too much on those " small items", like drinking, changing and so on, so that both you and she could be in a good mode and easy to communicate.Give her more time to adapt to the new environment, even for adult it is not so easy. Also the communication between you and Xin should go in a way of more "naturly", to follow her willingness, not yours. I am not sure what I said, but you could think about it.
Best wishes!
JG |