消磨时间的3种方法

h1n1

下面引用由燕原发表的内容：

认知疗法好像对大人管用。 对理解力，认知能力不完全的孩子，书上有没有啥说法呢？

我看的那本书不是针对自闭症谱系的，这种情况怎么做还真没讲。137楼天使MM给的答案很有道理，能问出原因当然好，问不出来，就ABA了。广义上讲，ABA也是一个“认知” 过程。比如害怕超市，每天让她站半个小时，一般人很快会学习到， “这是安全的”， 然后用这个新的经验冲掉旧的也许是说不清楚的错误观念。 对于那个妇女，她选择了拒绝接受新的经验，所以认知疗法更有效一点。

只是攻破错误观念的方式上，有时候是需要一点儿想象力的。有一个妇女，害怕呆在门窗紧闭的屋子里。教授通过询问，发现她担心在这样的屋子里氧气会很快被消耗掉，然后就挂了。教授把她放在一个密闭的小屋子里，自己在屋外喷洒橘子味的空气清新剂， 妇女很快就闻到了，问题也就解决了。

需要说明一点的是，这里说的“错误观念”， 是理性的可描述的，而不是精神分析里的那个潜意识。 在讲恐惧症的发展历史时，这本书讲了一个弗洛伊德的案例。

100年前，有一个5岁的男孩。有一次和妈妈一起上街， 看见两匹黑马拉着一辆马车从远处过来，突然一匹马摔倒，整个马车翻了。那匹马口吐白沫，痛苦地在小男孩眼前挣扎。男孩觉得害怕，拉着妈妈回家了。不久，孩子就开始害怕马，害怕所有可能有马的场合，甚至不愿意出门了。

孩子的爸爸是弗洛伊德的信徒，写信向他请教。弗洛伊德认为，孩子有恋母情结。他太爱自己的母亲，以致于他希望自己的竞争对手，父亲， 去死，因为有这样的想法，所以又害怕父亲。由于偶然事故，他把对父亲的害怕转移到马上，并以此最终达到了自己的目的：不出门，和妈妈单独在一起。

弗洛伊德当然是聪明的，但这件事上他彻底错了。后人研究发现，这男孩对母亲没有非分之想，也不害怕自己的父亲。

语晨313

V哥披露了病毒之前的几个大名鼎鼎的马甲，让我肃然起敬。以后要常来，常冒泡。

柴火

下面引用由语晨313发表的内容：

V哥披露了病毒之前的几个大名鼎鼎的马甲，让我肃然起敬。以后要常来，常冒泡。

当然了，老毒物很牛的！不光是对自闭这个领域很有建树（是不是太吹捧了？），而且人也幽默，风趣，不跟一般人计较（尽管一堆刑警追在后面要破案），是以琳网上修炼成仙的老人参了。

h1n1

楼上两位这么一起哄，我不禁飘飘然起来，索性再发挥一下。

就拿读书来说，我倒真是像柴大侠说的，成捆成捆地读，不过都是小人书。没办法，阿朱睡觉前喜欢我给他读，一般一次3本，最多的一次8本。这没什么，说明我有爱心，爱孩子。让我难为情的是，我是打心眼里喜欢这些小孩书，超过阿朱喜欢它们的程度。 有时候，读着读着，孩子已经睡着了，我还要声情并茂地把一本书读完。比如下面这个：

“The Giving Tree” by Shel Silverstein （节选）


Once there was a giving tree who loved a little boy.
And everyday the boy would come to play
Swinging from the branches, sleeping in the shade
Laughing all the summer’s hours away.
And so they love,
Oh, the tree was happy.
Oh, the tree was glad.

But soon the boy grew older and one day he came and said,
"Can you give me some money, tree, to buy something I’ve found?"
"I have no money," said the tree, "Just apples, twigs and leaves."
"But you can take my apples, boy, and sell them in the town."
And so he did and
Oh, the tree was happy.
Oh, the tree was glad.

But soon again the boy came back and he said to the tree,
"I’m now a man and I must have a house that’s all my home."
"I can’t give you a house" he said, "The forest is my house."
"But you may cut my branches off and build yourself a home"
And so he did.
Oh, the tree was happy.
Oh, the tree was glad.

And time went by and the boy came back with sadness in his eyes.
"My life has turned so cold," he says, "and I need sunny days."
"I’ve nothing but my trunk," he says, "But you can cut it down
And build yourself a boat and sail away."
And so he did and
Oh, the tree was happy.
Oh, the tree was glad.

And after years the boy came back, both of them were old.
"I really cannot help you if you ask for another gift."
"I’m nothing but an old stump now. I’m sorry but I’ve nothing more to give"
"I do not need very much now, just a quiet place to rest,"
The boy, he whispered, with a weary smile.
"Well", said the tree, "An old stump is still good for that."
"Come, boy", he said, "Sit down, sit down and rest a while."
And so he did and
Oh, the trees was happy.
Oh, the tree was glad.

h1n1

打开宝贝栏目，突然诗兴大发，胡诌两句：

春蚕到死丝方尽
吃了秤砣铁了心

人在多伦多

挺一下病毒在隔壁的言论。
回头琢磨个好玩的话题，非逼病毒出头不可。反正你马甲也多。