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manyou

Cool! Your son can read Harry Potter by himself in third grade.
Take it easy. I think his behavior problem is kind of growing pain. He will be getting better.

manyou

两个年龄相近的孩子在一起，好处不言自明。美国学校的阅读，写作进度很快，对美国人的正常孩子都不是件轻松的事情，孩子如果回国两年，回来再补也不是一件容易的事情。买点数学参考书回来让孩子每天做一些，中国孩子的数学一般不会有问题。

在美国，孩子要想成绩好，家长的作用绝对不亚于老师，看看好学校周围的父母背景就知道了。可以考虑让你的父母到美国来帮帮你，这样你可以多些时间管孩子。

manyou

My son has learned the chess for half a year, and he really enjoys that. So we put him in his school chess club, his teacher said he has some talent about that. But school chess club is kind of social activity, we are thinking if we could let him attend a formal club and have the coach to teach him. Your experience is highly appreciated.

manyou

Thanks for your suggestions.
Actually I have a lot concerns about my son to play chess. He can spend the whole day to play chess on computer without doing anything else. Even if he did not play it, he still wants to talk with you about that. That’s way I hesitate to give him the formal training. He plays chess in Windows Vista which has the leveled chess game. I am very happy to see his skills improving since this is a very good entertainment which helps you improve the intelligence, but at same time I am worried that he could totally fall into it. All in all I still try to let him continue to improve his skills because it does help him build the reputation in the peers given his poor social skills.  Now we have made a deal that he only can play in some specific time.

It’s hard to balance everything and make decision.

manyou

我儿子也喜欢自己玩，感觉他更享受这种独处的乐趣，人多的时候反而有些不自在。周末一整天，他可以自己在棋盘上摆棋谱，自己玩LEGO，电脑，BOARD GAME。我们自己的院子里有个WOODEN PLAYSET，天好的时候他就在那里玩秋千，滑滑梯或者在小房子里玩沙子。
儿子很愿意去看牙医，有关这方面的儿童读物他喜欢读，儿子说他长大以后想做牙医，我虽然口头上鼓励，但是心里觉得他实在不适合从事这种天天和人打交道的工作。最近他参加了学校的COMPUTER CLUB，这也是他的爱好之一，我想慢慢引导他认识到自己更适合干一些和TECHNOLOGY有关的事情。

manyou

中国的好只有在美国才能体会，美国的好也只有回国后才能想起来。没有十全十美的事情，所以无论如何选择都不用后悔。

manyou

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佩服大纲，我上完大学都不懂这个，...

同感.

美国从一年级开始学习历史,地理和自然科学.课时安排得也不少,要求学习的内容也很多. 儿子有时候把课本带回家, 我也仔细读过. 几百页厚厚的一本大书, 和我大学用的课本一样. 历史,地理,人文和经济归在SOCIAL STUDY. 生命科学,地质科学, 物理化学和天文归在SCIENCE. 每年都是这几个主题, 下一年一部分内容是重复上一年, 一部分是加深的内容. 儿子去年上二年级的时候SOCIAL STUDY就开始学习生产者,消费者, 税收这些概念以及他们之间的关系. 那时候我觉得他似懂非懂. 今年三年级的课程又重复了这些内容, 同时又让孩子了解价格和需求之间的关系, 什么是利润, 如何计算利润. 我觉得今年他才理解了去年教的东西, 但是对今年新内容依然似懂非懂, 尽管考试成绩是A. 中国人习惯于完全掌握课本, 恨不能要超过课本, 美国好象不是这样. 所以现在儿子暂时理解不了的内容, 我也不强求了, 等明年再说.

HOMESCHOOLING 很不容易,特别是对于我们这些一代移民.