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发表于 2008-1-12 22:09:16 | 只看该作者 回帖奖励 |正序浏览 |阅读模式
朋友转过来一篇华儿街日报上的文章,一看是讲马女侠的,原来是女侠又有行动了,准备买地建果园,看来是建"堪纳园"了.马女侠就是厉害,排起毒来能请来Dr.Shaw,现在又干起实业.在咱们星爸星妈里面,绝对是阴盛阳衰.网上一吵架,沟沟隘隘里的男人都出来了,真干事的时候都是些妇女们忙活.惭愧!

In China, Grass-Roots Groups
Stretch Limits on Activism

A Mother Leads Quest
To School Autistic Kids;
Selling the Family Home

By IAN JOHNSON
January 9, 2008; Page A1

TAIZHOU, China -- For nearly two years, Ma Chen and a group of her friends have run a volunteer effort to help children with autism. They opened three schools, raised $200,000 and brought in outside experts. Now the 35-year-old mother of an autistic girl wants to turn an overgrown plot of land into a working farm for the children when they grow up.

"We need to grow in size," says Ms. Ma, as she tramps through a tangle of orange trees and creeping vines.

But her ambitious goals will require a bigger, better-organized charity -- and that is propelling her into delicate territory. She is part of a grass-roots movement that is testing China's tolerance of groups that operate independent of official supervision.

The outcome has important implications for China. Independent centers of power, such as charities and advocacy groups, have begun popping up here in response to social problems. Beijing is gradually permitting nongovernmental organizations, but it restricts their scope. The country's leadership worries that too much civil society could stir up conflict, challenge its grip and put at risk the stability that has underpinned 25 years of fast economic growth.

Ms. Ma's group has been helped by state policies that for the first time recognize intellectual disabilities as a problem. This was highlighted in October, when Chinese President Hu Jintao attended the Special Olympics in Shanghai.

Ms. Ma, a long-haired woman who wears granny glasses perched on the end of her nose, isn't comfortable being pegged a social activist. Her real interest is engineering. She and her husband met at university, where they studied underwater acoustics. They married and got jobs at a defense contractor in Hangzhou, a tourist center of 4 million known for its scenic West Lake and green-tea plantations. In 2000, their daughter, Miao, was born.

But after two years, Miao seemed unable to interact with people. She could say only a few words and threw tantrums, hitting herself violently. The family went from hospital to hospital and finally found one able to make the diagnosis: autism.

Autism is a neurological disorder that affects the ability to communicate and interact. It can include severely restricted and repetitive behavior, as well as milder disorders such as Asperger's syndrome. Those severely afflicted need help in most aspects of daily life. The China Disabled Persons' Federation estimates that 104,000 children in China have learning disabilities, mostly autism, but based on surveys in other countries, the number is probably many times higher.

In China, as in many developing countries, disabilities like autism were long ignored or considered taboo. According to traditional views, birth defects were a sign that parents hadn't lived a virtuous life. Some mentally disabled people found work in the fields, but often were shut in to spare the clan a loss of face.

That has led to a dearth of knowledge on the condition. After Miao was diagnosed, Ms. Ma couldn't get an answer on what autism was or how to treat it. So she went online and discovered two schools for autistic children, one in Beijing and one in Qingdao. Ms. Ma quit her job and spent a year taking Miao to the two schools and to numerous private workshops the family paid for out of pocket.

She soon found that mainstream schools didn't allow even marginally autistic children, who often have short attention spans and need more intensive teaching. She decided she'd have to start her own school. In 2003, she went to register it with the government-run China Disabled Persons' Federation. It controls which charities for the disabled may be legally established.

The federation was founded to aid the physically challenged and only slowly championed the intellectually disabled. When Ms. Ma tried to register her school as a nonprofit, the federation said autism wasn't a recognized illness. Unable to operate legally, she closed her school.

Three years later, she reapplied. By then, autism was a recognized disorder. Although the federation had plans to set up its own schools for autism, officials said they could accept private outfits getting involved with teaching the disabled. In 2006, the federation's Hangzhou branch approved Ms. Ma's "Carnation Children's Rehabilitation Center."

Then came the next problem: money. To get the school off the ground, the family took drastic measures. They sold their apartment and emptied their savings -- in all, a loss of $100,000 in assets. The family now lives in a sparsely furnished rental in a grimy part of Hangzhou, without a car, stereo or any of the status symbols of China's middle class.

Ms. Ma's situation is typical of parents with autistic children, says Theresa Lu, a retired expert on autism from Taiwan who donates her time at schools in China.

"These schools are so fragile," Ms. Lu says. "I have seen so many go out of business. The parents just sell everything they have to pay for the schools until they run out of money and energy. Then they close."

Ms. Ma, however, began to tap into China's new prosperity. The country's economic rise has created tremendous wealth, but few outlets for charity. A handful of official charities exist, but are widely seen as arms of the government and excite little passion. Without a legal framework to allow private charities, philanthropy in China has been stunted.

So when Ms. Ma's quest spread by word of mouth, something unusual happened: Parents in Hangzhou, even some without autistic children, stepped forward.

"I just thought that here was something that needed our help," says Xu Wei, a 38-year-old housewife whose husband works for Hitachi Medical Corp. Their daughter isn't autistic, but Ms. Xu says her heart broke when she saw the children with no place to go. "It is something different to do, something with meaning."

Ms. Xu's family and three other families donated about $30,000 each, a large contribution by Chinese standards. They also gave their time; Ms. Xu, for example, is a former bank accountant who now handles the school's books.

Buoyed by their support, Ms. Ma began to recruit teachers. Parents of other children with autism began to turn to her, hoping they'd get a better education for their children. The disabled persons' federation is starting its own schools, but runs them for profit and so has higher student-teacher ratios.

Ms. Ma's school opened in April 2006. Soon after, she opened a second school, in Taizhou, and then last August, another one in her hometown. Enrollment fluctuates, but there are usually a total of about 100 students.

In October, Ms. Ma and her backers gathered to hold an unofficial board meeting in Taizhou and to survey the farm for sale. They timed their visit to coincide with a training class for teachers at the Taizhou school held by Ms. Lu, the Taiwanese volunteer. The 72-year-old spends several months a year traveling to mainland China to train teachers and parents.

Without a car, Ms. Ma and Miao made their way to Taizhou by bus. Ms. Ma worried for days about the four-hour trip. Like many autistic children, 7-year-old Miao dislikes enclosed spaces and can have fits of anger when cooped up. So Ms. Ma talked carefully to Miao about the trip, warning her what lay ahead. During the ride she stroked Miao, whispered encouragement, pointed to things outside and played games with her.

The effort paid off; only once did Miao jump up in frustration and rattle the seat of the passenger in front of her. Ms. Ma considered apologizing but reasoned that most people don't know what autism is. She smiled at the young man who turned around to look.

"He thinks Miao is a spoiled child and I'm a bad mother," Ms. Ma said, as the man turned away. "But what he doesn't realize is Miao's progress. Before the school opened, she couldn't sit still like this."

Finally, Taizhou. The city lies on a strip between the East China Sea and mountains that used to isolate this part of the country. Over the centuries, the seclusion forged a strongly individualistic streak; locals embraced China's economic reforms when they were launched in the late 1970s. The coast is now dotted with hundreds of family-run businesses, making everything from bra hooks to wooden toys.

The prosperity is important to Ms. Ma's work. Her schools, and others like them, get no government money. They survive by charging between $200 and $300 in monthly tuition. It is a staggering amount for China, even in wealthy provinces like Zhejiang, where the annual per-capita income for urban residents in 2006 was $2,400.

A few poor parents are given free tuition, but even middle-class families can't afford more than a few months of classes. Typically, a family enrolls a child for several months and one family member comes to learn how to communicate better with the child. Family members learn how to stop the children from hurting themselves and help them express themselves so they feel less frustrated.

The parents also learn that their child isn't being naughty -- and, hopefully, to stop beating their child, still a common reaction to an autistic child. Some dream their child will learn to read and write and join a regular elementary school. But most can afford classes just long enough to deal with the child's most pressing problems.

The day after arriving in Taizhou, Ms. Ma and her backers met at the school. As they prepared to hold a training session, Ms. Lu surveyed the 20 teachers and whispered to Ms. Ma: "There are too many teachers here. You only have 26 children. You'll go bankrupt."

Her schools lose about $10,000 a year. But Ms. Ma has little choice. China, a nation of 1.3 billion, trains fewer than 100 special-education teachers each year. This year, a class of 30, specialized in autism, graduated. The rest are trained in education for the blind, deaf and those with other impairments. Ms. Ma tries to hire the specialists but their numbers are so limited that she has to train most of her teachers. She trains teachers for six months. Even then, they still can't handle more than one or two autistic children at a time, she says.

So the schooling has to be especially intensive. The bottom line: Ms. Ma's schools have about a one-to-one student-teacher ratio, making it almost impossible to break even.

The next day, Ms. Ma, Ms. Lu and the parents surveyed the farm on the outskirts of Taizhou, then went to a small restaurant to discuss plans. The group agreed the disabled persons federation is better than before, but too passive and too concerned about money. One of Ms. Ma's schools is located in buildings owned and rented out by the federation, which the parents think isn't right.

"You can say there's progress because now they don't block us," Ms. Ma said over bites of shrimp and cuttlefish. "But I'll put it to you this way: They're our landlords. You can say, well, the rent is lower than it might be. That's true. But they still make money off us."

A spokesman for the federation said he couldn't comment on its financial arrangements with Ms. Ma's school.

Ms. Ma would like to set up a provincial or national parents' association. A bigger group would mean a more stable number of students and more money to train teachers. Eventually, they could raise the student-teacher ratio to 2 to 1 -- better than the government schools' ratio of about 6 to 1 -- but enough to break even. A bigger pool would also make it more likely to find enough parents to purchase the farm.

Last year, parents in Beijing tried to establish just such a national federation but were denied registration by the Ministry of Civil Affairs. The ministry declined to comment but a spokeswoman noted it is setting up schools for the autistic.

Ms. Ma's group would like to tap more efficiently into China's growing wealth. It hopes to set up a foundation where donations could be tax-free -- an important incentive because China is starting to tax the wealthy.

For now, a lack of legislation makes this impossible, although China's parliament may take up a charities law at its annual session in March. It shelved a draft bill at the 2006 session.

"There's no doubt there's progress, but it's slower than it might be," says Liu Hongchuan, a Beijing-based lawyer with an autistic child. "President Hu's visit [to the Special Olympics] shows that awareness is up, which is very important. But what these groups lack is a stable legal platform."

Before lunch broke up, Ms. Ma's benefactors agreed to cover the schools' estimated $10,000 in losses this year. They could end the losses by cutting out the few indigent families and upping the student-teacher ratio. But instead they opted to sink more money into the schools.

On the way back to town, they drove under a banner heralding the Special Olympics: "Pay more attention to and develop the affairs of the disabled."

"China is [paying more attention]," Ms. Ma said, nodding at the banner. "But the thing is, I'm not interested in organizations or networks. I want this [farm] so my daughter will have a place to live when we're dead."

--Ellen Zhu in Shanghai contributed to this article.

Write to Ian Johnson at ian.johnson@wsj.com
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发表于 2008-12-25 20:03:45 | 只看该作者

re:我妻子就是一位让我感动和佩服的母亲,她比...

我妻子就是一位让我感动和佩服的母亲,她比我坚强得多,有耐力有爱心,有这样的母亲,对孩子来说也是一种幸运。
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发表于 2008-4-15 15:34:47 | 只看该作者

re:可是办机构势必要花费很多的时间和精力,影...

可是办机构势必要花费很多的时间和精力,影响自己孩子的训练。最起码减少了你自己关注教育孩子的时间。
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发表于 2008-3-28 15:02:05 | 只看该作者
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发表于 2008-3-28 12:29:05 | 只看该作者

re:马琛39楼的描述还是必要的。让大家看看办...

马琛39楼的描述还是必要的。让大家看看办机构的确不容易。

其实大家都活在这个社会上,扳着手指头算算成本就可以了。不需要很精细,估摸着算就行了。大家按照一个合格的机构中,老师和孩子的比例,算算经营情况就知道,要做到不亏钱,得收多高的学费。这还仅仅是钱,精力体力的付出消耗根本算不过来。

这就回到我们的老生常谈了,就是还得依靠政府和社会才能把机构常态化地搞下去,否则真的没法弄。因为学费高了又不行。

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发表于 2008-3-28 01:38:37 | 只看该作者

re:机构有好有坏,不能一概而论的,这要看家长...

机构有好有坏,不能一概而论的,这要看家长自己选择了.看一个机构的好坏其实很容易的,只要你待个一个星期,和机构里的老师和家长聊聊,认真的观察孩子上的每一节课你就清楚了.
我再次为我的不冷静向看过这帖子的朋友道歉,我会删掉我前面的那个帖子,但我要声明,我们的机构的确办得很失败,可我们绝对代表不了所有的机构,因为我们对机构丧失信心更大可不必.
我认为大部分孩子是需要机构的,绝大多数办机构的家长的初衷也是好的,无非是想救己救人.但办机构真的是一件非常不容易的事情.拿我来说吧,我是2003年开始办机构的,前前后后起起落落共损失了七十多万元不说还投入了很多人无法想象的精力和时间,真是既花光了钱又累坏了身体,无数次的想过放弃,可又总是欲罢不能.
当然我是属于其中比较失败的。2003年我在我当时生活的一个小城市办起了一个8个老师从没超过6个孩子的小机构,这样的机构支撑了2年,三十万不见了踪影.我并不心疼这些钱因为这两年里女儿得到了最好的训练(起码我自己当时是这样想的),但后来一个人支撑一个机构实在太累了,可关门又觉得对不起这些老师和孩子,于是就搬到一个省会城市,先后两次和不是家长的一些人和机构合作,都已失败告终.并都不超过一年,不但损失了钱浪费了时间还失去了本来很好的朋友.在这两次合作失败后由于怕女儿没地方去,再加上舍不得这些跟了我四、五年的老师和孩子,不得不又重新办起了机构,又投入了二十多万,我从未奢求能收回这些钱,只希望每个月不要拿出太多钱就行了,可往往也不可能,现在我最少每月还要掏出七八千元。我也知道一些其他机构,虽然没我这么“不幸”,可也同样难以支撑。我所熟悉的几个机构状况最好的顶多可以收支平衡,绝大部分是亏钱的。我不敢说我们这些办机构的人有多么高尚,但我们真的付出了很多。我并不强求别人理解,因为就连我自己的亲人都无法理解我,可有时真的无法忍受别人的误解。
一时感慨说得太多了,以上所说的一切不针对任何人,如果斑竹认为不合适请删掉,我没任何异议。
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发表于 2008-3-27 14:30:33 | 只看该作者

re:看到这样的场面我很难过,我还能放心地把孩...

看到这样的场面我很难过,我还能放心地把孩子放在那些机构吗?
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发表于 2008-3-27 12:20:35 | 只看该作者

re:胖胖妈妈: 我们理解你来以琳网的...

胖胖妈妈:
   我们理解你来以琳网的目的是学习些东西,这个欢迎。你31楼最后撂下个问题就走人,就压根没理会我之前诚恳的劝告。以琳网是个公开场合,你抛出这个“猛料”,当事人马女士无法不作出澄清,一来一回的就这么好玩吗?在你知道所谓事件的真实背景情况下,还语焉不详地抛出“悄悄问一句”,这就是上升到居心和动机的问题了。
   希望你好自为之。
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发表于 2008-3-27 10:26:43 | 只看该作者

re:别到这里来骂人啊,我是来学东西的...

    别到这里来骂人啊,我是来学东西的,可别教坏我。
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发表于 2008-3-20 10:02:08 | 只看该作者

re:长期向往有一个农场.“肯纳园”需要些...

长期向往有一个农场.
“肯纳园”需要些什么?里面说的是不是和这里说的是一回事。
不管怎样,农场的生活都是另人向往的,若是能够成功运营下来会给同样梦想家长很多借鉴。
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re:关于我闹到派出所的事我想很多和我相识的家...

关于我闹到派出所的事我想很多和我相识的家长都知道,而且都是我自己当一个笑话来说的,几年前我也和方老师讲过,方老师大概已经忘了,也正是因为这件事我才开始办机构的.不用悄悄问了,这不是什么秘密.别说是以前就是现在如果还有人当我的面说侮辱我们孩子的话我还是会立马揣她两脚的.也不怕再进派出所.
再次谢谢所有爱护我的朋友,就象我向T版保证的,我不会再纠缠这件事.大家也都知道这件事的始作俑者并不是我.
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发表于 2008-3-19 23:13:00 | 只看该作者

re:31楼,我觉得你说话不是很厚道,既然说自...

31楼,我觉得你说话不是很厚道,既然说自己是个有修养的人,不想唇枪舌战和泼妇骂街,那你最后一句话是什么意思呢?我问的意思不是想知道中间的细节,想问你进过派出所怎么了,坐过牢又怎么了,如果坐黑牢呢?我非典期间拒绝体检还进过派出所呢,你的名字就起就不厚道,我们都还以为你的孩子也和我们一样呢,你和马琛个人有纠纷,当面或电话与她理论去吧.你要再在这里继续说这些没头没脑的话,你挨批是肯定的.
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发表于 2008-3-19 22:52:18 | 只看该作者

re:楼上胖胖妈妈,最后那句话如果不说,就真的...

楼上胖胖妈妈,最后那句话如果不说,就真的冷静了。

办机构的很多,合作失败的例子也很多,这是正常的事。
我们都知道办机构是不容易;合作办则更不不容易。
毕竟事情已经过去了。
没完没了的,伤人伤已。
“女侠”和“关注自闭症儿童的人士”,可是让我们尊敬的二个称谓。

我们继续向往有一个农场,哪怕目前只是梦想。
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re:一、首先声明注册“胖胖妈妈”是从关注自闭...

一、首先声明注册“胖胖妈妈”是从关注自闭症儿童开始,知道以琳网是全国最大的、最权威的的网站,为了可以进入论坛,为了了解这些孩子。造成了对大家的判断有影响,感到非常抱歉!
二 、和马琛之间的事情不想说了,因为(1)在过年前已全部结束了,该承担的也全都承担了。(2)我们都是有教养的人,这样唇枪舌战的,很像泼妇骂街,自己都会觉得不象话。
三 、马女侠要控制情绪要冷静,否则会影响你的女侠形象的,要知道有理不在声高,言多必失。最后悄悄问你:你也因为闹事进过派出所吧!
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发表于 2008-3-18 17:31:11 | 只看该作者

re:呵呵.....我一看到这个"呵呵"就知道...

呵呵.....我一看到这个"呵呵"就知道你是谁了,我们都一样爱呵呵吗!好久不见还好吧?还是别"大侠大侠"的了吧,虽然的确不够温柔可也没这么"江湖"吧?呵呵......其实我也知道来这么一通很没意思,本来不想说什么的,可就是忍不住,气人呢......
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re:看到这个帖子忍不住穿了个马甲上来说两句:...

看到这个帖子忍不住穿了个马甲上来说两句:
马老师,其实任何一个认识你的人都不会理会那个胖胖妈妈说的话的,你也大可不必理她,她上来说那些前言不搭后语的话的目的其实就是想激怒你让你不舒服,她目的达到了。不过如果不说出上面那些话而是沉默不语的话就不是我们所认识的那个“马大侠”了。呵呵。。。。
猜猜我是谁,提醒一下,也被你“骂”过的[em04]
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发表于 2008-3-15 12:01:14 | 只看该作者

re:马琛我跟她合作过,做事的风格可能和我们不...

马琛我跟她合作过,做事的风格可能和我们不一样,但人品是相当好的。
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发表于 2008-3-15 09:20:25 | 只看该作者

re:谢谢thankstoyilin!昨天有朋...

谢谢thankstoyilin!昨天有朋友跟我提起,我一看真的是气着了,说的话的确是很不理智,但当时如果不说的话会郁闷死的.
还是T版厉害,说得我心服口服.我为我的不冷静跟大家道歉,下次绝不会了!
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发表于 2008-3-15 08:37:48 | 只看该作者

re:我们这个论坛是避免这种是非曲折的。但是我...

我们这个论坛是避免这种是非曲折的。但是我理解马琛楼上这个帖子的主要意图。既然有人开个头说是非,也不能撂下话就走人,当事人是有权利做出澄清的。虽然这是个小众论坛,但毕竟是一个公开的平台。

只是马琛如果控制一下情绪当然更妥,呵呵。虽然这个要求未必合理。写太长了,简单是三句话。
(1)“**妈妈”是正常孩子的家长,如此注册网名所带来的隐式含义,对大家的判断是有影响的。
(2)马女士做事情的动机是光明正大的,让大家知道“农场实情及进展”是负责任的做法。
(3)“**妈妈”和马女士合作上曾经的过往,完全可以合情、合理、合法地解决。这是网友们不需要去关注的事情。

打住了。
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