普通孩子的经验分享能力发育共分6个层次：Tuning In(birth)---谐调进入（出生以后）, Learning to Dance(6 months)---学习舞蹈（6个月大）, Improvising and Co-creating(12 months)---临时准备和共同创造（12个月大时即会）, Sharing Outside worlds( 18 months)---分享外部世界（18个月）, Discovering Inside Worlds(30 months)---发现内在世界（30个月）, Binding Selves to others(48 months)----联系自身到他人.
RDI的目标：
理解并欣赏多层次的经验分享；
在共同管理的分享经验交流中成为平等伙伴；
理解并评估其他人的独特性----他们的观点，意见和感觉；
评估并努力保持持久的关系；
在社交和非社交问题的解决上，变得有适应力和灵活性；
认识他们自己的能持续成长和发展的独特性。
分为6个层次，，每个层次有4个节段。
我驻地附近就有一个家长的孩子（目前4岁半，经过一年的培训后，由原来的重症自闭，转变成边缘性的自闭倾向，据说，他预期再经半年干预，有望变成不自闭----据说是由自闭量表来测试的结果）。那个家长组织了一个做关系型发展干预的家长组织，每月都在他家聚会，探讨干预方法。这套放法是基于Dr. Steven E. Gutstein 一个心理学医生和他夫人 Rachell sheely（也是医生）研究和从医20多年来的成果所创立。他们还据此法在当地一个 学校正式推广其干预方法。据说我们这里的特教老师也很感兴趣用此法来教孩子。
一般地说，贵的学习此法的途径是先到做一个测试评估（relational development assessment---RDA）可以到他们那个中心 （在美国Houston, TX ---需一周，对孩子评估，录像讨论，家长有机会见识对你孩子的实地操作。-----估计较贵----我还没得到报价）做，也可找有那个中心培训证书授权的治疗师做（目前美国的人数都不多，如果国内机构能来人培训，国内的家长就方便了），以制定针对孩子个人特点的干预方案，并实地学习如何操作。(也有家长培训班，较贵1950美元4天，但他夫妇二人亲自教)。
便宜的方法有先认真学习他的两本书：1)Autism Aspergers: Solving the Relationship Puzzle--原里部分 ; 2) Relationship Development Intervention with young Children----具体操作1-3 层次--2-8岁孩子（雅马逊上有售: www.amazon.com, 我在 www.overstock.com 买的,更便宜,），[大孩子或大人, Relationship Development Intervention with Children, Adolescents and Adults: Social and Emotional Development Activities for Asperger Syndrome, Autism]
I was in that 2 days work shop last weekend. Maybe I was too tied that time; I don’t think I learn anything from there. Period to that two days work shop, I took my son to see local RDI therapist, she suggested us start level 1. I am planning to attend that 4 days parent work shop. Hope I will learn something from there.
Hi, Shandamom,
Glad to know you are also interested in RDI.
I will take the 4 days parent training in April.And we are working on my son's RDA this month from a local provider and hopfully could get some IEP goal from it(if you go to the connections center directly, the whole package will be 6600$, including 6 months follow up and re-evaluation as they told me last week). So I choose to go local provider site.
I am also trying to start the activities from the level one and the RDI life style now.I did not take the 2 days training, just watched the RDI video tape from that provider site and read the info from the internet and Dr. G's book. I heard that the 4 days training might give us more info.
In our area, I already found several other Chinese families already began their RDI activities with their children since last year. They all began from the level 1. So I think other families who could not get the RDA done, just can begin from the level one.
Hi, Lauray
Thank you for your information. I live in Seattle area. Our RDI therapist is working on set up a parent support group. I haven’t seen any Chinese family so far. I haven't started the RDI activities on my son. He just turns 3 years old. His language skill is our biggest concern. He can say Mom, dady,cow,car, ect twenty some words and can mimic some simple words. He's receptive language is much better than his expressive language. His academic skill is OK. I thought about sent him to China last year when he just get, because of Sars, we can’t go .We started a lot of services from birth to three program for him BUT his speech still not come out.. Could you share some experience about this. Most expert suggest us to speak English at home, couple says it is OK say Chinese at home, English at School.
For RDI,,somehow I feel like RDI is more for high functioning kids, It may not be suitable for my son because of his langue limitation. I don't know how to start it, even though RDI theory says it apply to all level. I wonder if I can talk to you off line?
Dr. G。 建议我们不能把生活搞太紧张了，要变慢，简化！他提出不是每周每天，每小时你都在巡连孩子就能达到目的。比如你这小时教了孩子说了一句话，也许下周他就忘光了。他反复提醒大家，你现在还能记住多少高中学的东西？要重质量，而非数量。当然，他也不反对其他针对有严重伴随性问题的治疗，如感统，语言，生活技能等。但他提出那些都没有触及自闭症的根本问题。（我希望他的真是：）我认为在目前自闭症原因不明的情况下，别的问题也要训练，因为你真不知哪朵云彩会下雨。）
对那些ABA, VB做了有些年头，而目前收效不大或想试着解决深层次问题的家长，我建议来做这个。Dr. G 不建议同时做VB。而认为会水到渠成。